This is the easy way and the fastest way to :
1. Make your Authority Technorati explode.
2. Increase your Google Page Rank.
3. Get more traffic to your blog.
4. Makes more new friends.
Rules :
1. Start copy from “Begin Copy” until “End Copy” to your blog.
2. Put your own blog name and link.
3. Tag your friends as much as you can.
1. Picturing of Life
2. Juliana’s Site
3. Hazel-My Life, My Hope, My Future.
4. Jeanne-The Callalily Space
5. Starz in De Sky
6. My Charmed Life
7. Denz Techtronics
8. Denz Recreational
9. Life’s Simple Pleasures
10. My Blog
11. Because Life is Fun
12. In This Game of Life
13. Scribbles of my Life
14. Changing Lanes
15. This is what my heart says...
16. A mom's note
17. Tasteful Voyage
18. Jackie's Everyday Life
19. Jackie Simply Pinay
20. Gerthy's Scrapbook
21. Gerthy Sanctary
23. Aileen's Sweet Escape
24. Wifespeak
25. Your Link Here
~~End Copy~~
Monday, March 31, 2008
Extended Time Out
Hello, dear friends. I thought I could buckle down to blogging after Easter. It seems I was wrong. I have to work on a new set of cross stitch patterns for my collection. Those of you who have been my friends since I started know that I run a small craft shop in my husband's hometown. I'll pop in from time to time to say hello but for the meantime, blogging has to take a back seat. I'm missing all of you. See you soon.
Sunday, March 23, 2008
Links Around the World Tag
Joy sent me this tag.
This is the Links Around The World Tag.Instruction:
1-Momhood Moments 2-Business Mars 3-Princezz 4-Princess 5-Cecil 6-Ron & Cecil 7-Pinay Mommy Online 8-OnlineBiz and Resources 9-A Simple life 10-moms…..check nyo 11-Mommy’s Little Corner 12-Random Thoughts 13-Paradigm 14-See Me For What You Will 15-Pamp’s Blog Corner 16-Pampered 17-HappyHeart 18-Qtcotzkie and Baby 19-A Sorta Fairytale 20- tragicseven 21-Listen to the Beat! 22-Just Saying 23-Tipsy Tips 24- 25-Different AnglesDelicious Corner 26-I Care 27-Blog Blag Blog 28-Daily List 29-Life’s Journey 30-Welcome to my Crib 31-A Daily Walk With Bill & Gina 32-Me,Myself + 2 33-Fun.Fierce.Fabulous 34-Mike 35-BerryScrappy 36-BloggerHappy 37-My Planet Purple 38-Our Journey to Life 39-Princess Bela 40-Kaptyurd by Howell 41-My Simple Joys 42-A Sweet Taste Of Life 43- Bits and Pieces 44. Mem's Precious Moments 45. mugshots 46. Brainymommy 47. Pioneers Band 48.Maya's Window 49. Rojoy's Daily Update 50. Buzzy Bee Mom 51. Mommy Joy Of Two 52. Rojoy's Kitchen 53. Wifespeak 54. Your Link
I am passing this tag to Liza, Marie, and a new friend, Carol.
This is the Links Around The World Tag.Instruction:
1. Place your link after the list. If you have more than 1 blog, feel free to add them all here!
2. After placing your blog’s address/es, you must tag 5 or more bloggers that is not yet in the list, this is to keep the ball rolling.
3. Here is the best part: Make sure to update your list every now and then, by getting the master list here. I’ll be updating the master list every day, or as soon as I see a new blog that’s been added to the list.1-Momhood Moments 2-Business Mars 3-Princezz 4-Princess 5-Cecil 6-Ron & Cecil 7-Pinay Mommy Online 8-OnlineBiz and Resources 9-A Simple life 10-moms…..check nyo 11-Mommy’s Little Corner 12-Random Thoughts 13-Paradigm 14-See Me For What You Will 15-Pamp’s Blog Corner 16-Pampered 17-HappyHeart 18-Qtcotzkie and Baby 19-A Sorta Fairytale 20- tragicseven 21-Listen to the Beat! 22-Just Saying 23-Tipsy Tips 24- 25-Different AnglesDelicious Corner 26-I Care 27-Blog Blag Blog 28-Daily List 29-Life’s Journey 30-Welcome to my Crib 31-A Daily Walk With Bill & Gina 32-Me,Myself + 2 33-Fun.Fierce.Fabulous 34-Mike 35-BerryScrappy 36-BloggerHappy 37-My Planet Purple 38-Our Journey to Life 39-Princess Bela 40-Kaptyurd by Howell 41-My Simple Joys 42-A Sweet Taste Of Life 43- Bits and Pieces 44. Mem's Precious Moments 45. mugshots 46. Brainymommy 47. Pioneers Band 48.Maya's Window 49. Rojoy's Daily Update 50. Buzzy Bee Mom 51. Mommy Joy Of Two 52. Rojoy's Kitchen 53. Wifespeak 54. Your Link
I am passing this tag to Liza, Marie, and a new friend, Carol.
Saturday, March 22, 2008
Monday, March 10, 2008
Time Out
I have been unable to blog for more than a week now. My children are having their examinations and I have to prepare them. I managed to make a couple of articles to post but that is about all the time I have. I will be back in full force after Easter but I will try to squeeze in a few minutes every now and then just to take a peek. I miss you all! HAPPY EASTER!!! in advance, dear friends.
When Endurance Fails
Everyday we hear the stories of everyday heroes who, by sheer endurance, conquer all obstacles just to survive. In a third world country like the Philippines just putting food on the table is a feat. Millions of families survive day by day on a daily allowance of $5 or even less. Considering that the average size of the Filipino family is 4.5, that amounts to a little more than a dollar per person per family.
I continue to be amazed at how millions of Filipinos manage to smile despite all these odds. I wonder to myself where they get the endurance to get through all these and still manage to be happy. Such is the strength of the Filipino.
Where does he get this? The answer is faith. The Filipino has extreme and absolute faith that in the end, everything will be alright. He is absolutely sure that at the end of his strength, he can rely on the helping hand of God who will take him beyond himself and conquer.
A salute to the Filipino spirit! It is well-deserved. In the light of the prevailing political and economic situation of our country, we will conquer. Gloria in all her evil glory cannot bring you down. Good always conquers evil. We will conquer the devil in Malacañang!
I continue to be amazed at how millions of Filipinos manage to smile despite all these odds. I wonder to myself where they get the endurance to get through all these and still manage to be happy. Such is the strength of the Filipino.
Where does he get this? The answer is faith. The Filipino has extreme and absolute faith that in the end, everything will be alright. He is absolutely sure that at the end of his strength, he can rely on the helping hand of God who will take him beyond himself and conquer.
A salute to the Filipino spirit! It is well-deserved. In the light of the prevailing political and economic situation of our country, we will conquer. Gloria in all her evil glory cannot bring you down. Good always conquers evil. We will conquer the devil in Malacañang!
Vaginal Rings: Lowering the Risks of Oral Contraception for Diabetics
Oral contraceptives are probably the most popular method of contraception. They remain to be the first line of treatment for women who desire birth control. A lot of studies have been done to minimize the risks involved with regards to cardiovascular disease but very little has been done with regards to metabolic effects of oral contraceptives.
There is evidence which shows that oral contraceptives may aggravate insulin resistance and exert other metabolic effects that might increase a woman's long-term risk for diabetes and heart disease. Therefore, women who have diabetes or cardiovascular disorders are not advised to use oral contraception. Recently, tests have been done in an effort to lessen the risk of oral contraception to diabetics by using vaginal rings. Research indicates that delivering low-dose oral contraceptives using vaginal rings can provide better efficacy and good cycle control with less of the risk. The tests done showed that insulin sensitivity measured with a glucose tolerance test was significantly decreased in women who took the oral contraceptive pill as compared to women who used the vaginal ring. The study confirms that low-dose oral contraceptives can adversely impact metabolic function. Thus, many women of reproductive age have insulin resistance of type 2 diabetes. Although further tests are necessary, the initial tests show that using vaginal rings to deliver contraceptives to women has less metabolic effects than oral contraceptives.
Moreover, the vaginal contraceptive ring has other benefits. Women who use it find it more convenient to use because they have to worry about their contraception only once a month. They have experienced shorter and lighter menstrual periods with fewer cramps. They have decreased PMS symptoms. There is also a decrease in the appearance of acne. And studies have shown that there is also a decreased risk of endometrial and ovarian cancers.
The vaginal contraceptive ring is highly recommended for women who have a history of breast cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, epilepsy, depression, gallbladder or kidney disease, those who have recently had major surgery, those who suffer from dropped uterus or bladder, those who suffer from severe constipation, and those who are breastfeeding. It is available through a prescription.
There is evidence which shows that oral contraceptives may aggravate insulin resistance and exert other metabolic effects that might increase a woman's long-term risk for diabetes and heart disease. Therefore, women who have diabetes or cardiovascular disorders are not advised to use oral contraception. Recently, tests have been done in an effort to lessen the risk of oral contraception to diabetics by using vaginal rings. Research indicates that delivering low-dose oral contraceptives using vaginal rings can provide better efficacy and good cycle control with less of the risk. The tests done showed that insulin sensitivity measured with a glucose tolerance test was significantly decreased in women who took the oral contraceptive pill as compared to women who used the vaginal ring. The study confirms that low-dose oral contraceptives can adversely impact metabolic function. Thus, many women of reproductive age have insulin resistance of type 2 diabetes. Although further tests are necessary, the initial tests show that using vaginal rings to deliver contraceptives to women has less metabolic effects than oral contraceptives.
Moreover, the vaginal contraceptive ring has other benefits. Women who use it find it more convenient to use because they have to worry about their contraception only once a month. They have experienced shorter and lighter menstrual periods with fewer cramps. They have decreased PMS symptoms. There is also a decrease in the appearance of acne. And studies have shown that there is also a decreased risk of endometrial and ovarian cancers.
The vaginal contraceptive ring is highly recommended for women who have a history of breast cancer, diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, epilepsy, depression, gallbladder or kidney disease, those who have recently had major surgery, those who suffer from dropped uterus or bladder, those who suffer from severe constipation, and those who are breastfeeding. It is available through a prescription.
Thursday, February 28, 2008
The Domino Effect Tag
This tag came from, Liza. Thanks for remembering me, sis.
Rule: Copy the entire list and add your name at the bottom. And tag at least 5 friends. (But you can tag as many as you like)
Thea is {bloggerhappy.com}
Childstar
Mike
My Scrappy Side
Abie
Aggie
Alpha
Apple
Apols
Jacqui
Jane
Jody
Joy
Kelly
Mich
Peachy
Liza (A Simple Life)
Tet
Nyumix
JulianaRW
Liza(MCN)
Wifespeak
Now I would like to tag Max, Trinity, Jk, Darlene, and Ruby.
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Award Time Again!: THE EXCELLENT AWARD
Got this award from my new friend Jo-n. Thank you for this award. I appreciate it that you appreciate my efforts at getting to know you better.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
I AM AN ASS
This is a tag sent to me by Rojoy. Hope you find it fun just as I did. Seems to have hit the nail right on the head with me on this one. Feel free to grab it and pass it on just for the kick of it.
LOOK UP YOUR BIRTHDAY AND SEE WHAT YOU ARE. FORWARD ON TO PEOPLE THAT YOU THINK THAT WOULD GET A KICK OUT OF THIS... INCLUDING THE PERSON WHO SENT IT TO YOU. PUT YOUR BIRTHDAY ANIMAL IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND PASS IT ON.
Don't forget to scroll down to see what it says about you.
January 01 - 09 ~ Ass
January 10 - 24 ~ Slug
January 25 - 31 ~ Cockroach
February 01 - 05 ~ Parasite
February 06 - 14 ~ Bullfrog
February r y 15 - 21 ~ Skunk
February 22 - 28 ~ Snake
March 01 - 12 ~ Ape
March 13 - 15 ~ Cockroach
March 16 - 23 ~ Slug
March 24 - 31 ~ Parasite
April 01 - 03 ~ Ass
April 04 - 14 ~ Snake
April 15 - 26 ~ Slug
April 27 - 30 ~ Skunk
May 01 - 13 ~ Slug
May 14 - 21 ~ Bullfrog
May 22 - 31 ~ Cockroach
June 01 - 03 ~ Slug
June 04 - 14 ~ Skunk
June 15 - 20 ~ Ass
June 21 - 24 ~ Ape
June 25 - 30 ~ Parasite
July 01 - 09 ~ Slug
July 10 - 15 ~ Ass
July 16 - 26 ~ Bullfrog
July 27 - 31 ~ Parasite
August 01 - 15 ~ Ape
August 16 - 25 ~ Slug
August 26 - 31 ~ Skunk
September 01 - 14 ~ Bullfrog
September 15 - 27 ~ Parasite
September 28 - 30 ~ Ass
October 01 - 15 ~ Ape
October 16 - 27 ~ Skunk
October 28 - 31 ~ Snake
November 01 - 16 ~ Cockroach
November 17 - 30 ~ Parasite
December 01 - 16 ~ Ass
December 17 - 25 ~ Ape
December 26 - 31 ~ Bullfrog
If you are an Ass : A very loyal and sweet person. Your loyalty can never be doubted. You are quite honest and sincere when it comes to your attitude towards working. You are a very simple person, indeed. Absolutely hassle free, humble, and down-to-earth!! That explains the reason why your friends cling on to you! You have a good taste for clothes. If your wardrobe is not updated with what is trendy, you sure are depressed. Popular and easy-going. You have a little gr! oup of dignified friends, all of them being quality-personified.
If you are a Slug : Always up to some sort of a mischief! The mischievous gleam in your eyes is what mak e s you so cute and attractive to everyone. You are an extremely fun-to-be-with kind of person. No wonder people seek your company and look forward to include you for all get-together's. However, you are sensitive which is a drawback. People need to select their words while talking to you. If someone tries to fiddle around and play with words while dealing with you, it is enough to invite your wrath. God bless the person then!
If you are a Cockroach : Quite contradictory to your name, you are a peace loving person. You best try to avoid a situation wherein you are required to fight. An outdoor person, you dislike sitting at one place for a long duration. You are a born leader, and have it in you how to tactfull! y deriv e work from people. You love being loved and when you receive your share of limelight from s omeone, you are all theirs!!!! Well, well... Hence some people could even take an advantage, flatter you to the maximum and get their work done. So be careful.....
If you are a Parasite : An extremely lovable, adorable person, sometimes shy, with a passion for quick wit. At times, you prefer quietness. You love exploring various things and going into depth of each thing. Under normal circumstances you're cool but when given a reason to, you are like a volcano waiting to erupt. You're a fashion bird. People look forward to you as an icon associated with fashion. Basically, you mingle along freely but don't like talking much to strangers. People feel very easy in your company. You observe care in choosing your friends.
If you are a Skunk : You are near to perfect and nice at heart! . The e xamples of your kindness are always circulated in groups of people. You, too, love peace. You wouldn't like to retaliate even to a person who is in the wrong. You are loved due to this. You do not wish to talk behind one's back. People love the way you always treat them. You can give, give, and give love, and the best part is that you do not expect it back in return. You are generous enough. Seeing things in a practical light is what remains the best trait of you guys.
If you are a Bullfrog : You symbolize a very happy-go-lucky approach in life. Whatever the surroundings may be, grim or cheerful, you remain unaffected. In fact, you spread cheer wherever you go. You are the leader of your group of fri ends! and go od at consoling pe ople in their times of need. You dislike hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good books, no matter what. You are very methodical and organized in your work. No amount of mess, hence, can ever encompass you. Beware, it is easy for you to fall in love....
If you are a Snake : You are mysterious. You are someone who can handle pressure with ease, and can handle any atmosphere without going berserk. You can be mean at times, and love to gossip with your selected group. Very prim and proper. You like all situations and things to be in the w! ay you desire, which, sometimes is not possible. As a result, you may lose out in some relationships. But otherwise, you love to help people out from difficult and tight spots when they really need you.
If you are an Ape : Very impatient and hyper!!! You want things to be done as quick as possible. At heart, you are quite simple and love if you are the center of attraction. That way, you people are unique. You would like to keep yourself safe from all the angles. Shall your name be dragged or featured in any sort of a controversy, you then go all panicky. Therefore, you take your precautions from the very beginning. When you foresee anything wrong, your sixth sense is what saves you from falling in traps. Quite a money minded bunch you people are!!
I am passing this tag to retchel, ivan girl, and posh totty. They are my new friends here in the blogging community whose blogs I go to almost daily now.
LOOK UP YOUR BIRTHDAY AND SEE WHAT YOU ARE. FORWARD ON TO PEOPLE THAT YOU THINK THAT WOULD GET A KICK OUT OF THIS... INCLUDING THE PERSON WHO SENT IT TO YOU. PUT YOUR BIRTHDAY ANIMAL IN THE SUBJECT LINE AND PASS IT ON.
Don't forget to scroll down to see what it says about you.
January 01 - 09 ~ Ass
January 10 - 24 ~ Slug
January 25 - 31 ~ Cockroach
February 01 - 05 ~ Parasite
February 06 - 14 ~ Bullfrog
February r y 15 - 21 ~ Skunk
February 22 - 28 ~ Snake
March 01 - 12 ~ Ape
March 13 - 15 ~ Cockroach
March 16 - 23 ~ Slug
March 24 - 31 ~ Parasite
April 01 - 03 ~ Ass
April 04 - 14 ~ Snake
April 15 - 26 ~ Slug
April 27 - 30 ~ Skunk
May 01 - 13 ~ Slug
May 14 - 21 ~ Bullfrog
May 22 - 31 ~ Cockroach
June 01 - 03 ~ Slug
June 04 - 14 ~ Skunk
June 15 - 20 ~ Ass
June 21 - 24 ~ Ape
June 25 - 30 ~ Parasite
July 01 - 09 ~ Slug
July 10 - 15 ~ Ass
July 16 - 26 ~ Bullfrog
July 27 - 31 ~ Parasite
August 01 - 15 ~ Ape
August 16 - 25 ~ Slug
August 26 - 31 ~ Skunk
September 01 - 14 ~ Bullfrog
September 15 - 27 ~ Parasite
September 28 - 30 ~ Ass
October 01 - 15 ~ Ape
October 16 - 27 ~ Skunk
October 28 - 31 ~ Snake
November 01 - 16 ~ Cockroach
November 17 - 30 ~ Parasite
December 01 - 16 ~ Ass
December 17 - 25 ~ Ape
December 26 - 31 ~ Bullfrog
If you are an Ass : A very loyal and sweet person. Your loyalty can never be doubted. You are quite honest and sincere when it comes to your attitude towards working. You are a very simple person, indeed. Absolutely hassle free, humble, and down-to-earth!! That explains the reason why your friends cling on to you! You have a good taste for clothes. If your wardrobe is not updated with what is trendy, you sure are depressed. Popular and easy-going. You have a little gr! oup of dignified friends, all of them being quality-personified.
If you are a Slug : Always up to some sort of a mischief! The mischievous gleam in your eyes is what mak e s you so cute and attractive to everyone. You are an extremely fun-to-be-with kind of person. No wonder people seek your company and look forward to include you for all get-together's. However, you are sensitive which is a drawback. People need to select their words while talking to you. If someone tries to fiddle around and play with words while dealing with you, it is enough to invite your wrath. God bless the person then!
If you are a Cockroach : Quite contradictory to your name, you are a peace loving person. You best try to avoid a situation wherein you are required to fight. An outdoor person, you dislike sitting at one place for a long duration. You are a born leader, and have it in you how to tactfull! y deriv e work from people. You love being loved and when you receive your share of limelight from s omeone, you are all theirs!!!! Well, well... Hence some people could even take an advantage, flatter you to the maximum and get their work done. So be careful.....
If you are a Parasite : An extremely lovable, adorable person, sometimes shy, with a passion for quick wit. At times, you prefer quietness. You love exploring various things and going into depth of each thing. Under normal circumstances you're cool but when given a reason to, you are like a volcano waiting to erupt. You're a fashion bird. People look forward to you as an icon associated with fashion. Basically, you mingle along freely but don't like talking much to strangers. People feel very easy in your company. You observe care in choosing your friends.
If you are a Skunk : You are near to perfect and nice at heart! . The e xamples of your kindness are always circulated in groups of people. You, too, love peace. You wouldn't like to retaliate even to a person who is in the wrong. You are loved due to this. You do not wish to talk behind one's back. People love the way you always treat them. You can give, give, and give love, and the best part is that you do not expect it back in return. You are generous enough. Seeing things in a practical light is what remains the best trait of you guys.
If you are a Bullfrog : You symbolize a very happy-go-lucky approach in life. Whatever the surroundings may be, grim or cheerful, you remain unaffected. In fact, you spread cheer wherever you go. You are the leader of your group of fri ends! and go od at consoling pe ople in their times of need. You dislike hypocrisy and tend to shirk away from hypocrites. They can never be in your good books, no matter what. You are very methodical and organized in your work. No amount of mess, hence, can ever encompass you. Beware, it is easy for you to fall in love....
If you are a Snake : You are mysterious. You are someone who can handle pressure with ease, and can handle any atmosphere without going berserk. You can be mean at times, and love to gossip with your selected group. Very prim and proper. You like all situations and things to be in the w! ay you desire, which, sometimes is not possible. As a result, you may lose out in some relationships. But otherwise, you love to help people out from difficult and tight spots when they really need you.
If you are an Ape : Very impatient and hyper!!! You want things to be done as quick as possible. At heart, you are quite simple and love if you are the center of attraction. That way, you people are unique. You would like to keep yourself safe from all the angles. Shall your name be dragged or featured in any sort of a controversy, you then go all panicky. Therefore, you take your precautions from the very beginning. When you foresee anything wrong, your sixth sense is what saves you from falling in traps. Quite a money minded bunch you people are!!
I am passing this tag to retchel, ivan girl, and posh totty. They are my new friends here in the blogging community whose blogs I go to almost daily now.
One Proud Mama
No, fellow-Filipino bloggers, I am not going to write about Qtv's newest show hosted by Jaya. I am going to act like any proud mama and gloat about my eldest daughter. This coming March, she is crossing another milestone in her life. She is graduating from elementary. And from all indications, she is graduating among the top 10% of her batch. I have been helping her out with her academic requirements these past few weeks which is why I have not been active at blogging recently. She deserves nothing less from me as she has continually given me numerous reasons to be proud of her as a daughter and as a student. She has consistently gotten very good grades since pre-school and has been an outstanding student leader since first grade. And now my baby is graduating. And she makes me proud. She will not be pleased about this but I am posting here her official graduation pictures. She is one of the greatest achievements of my life. Here's to you, Denise, my darling daughter! Congratulations!
A Call to Filipinos Who Love the Philippines
In the spirit of true PEOPLE POWER, we are inviting you to an online show of disgust and search for the truth. We will be conducting a blogswarm slated on Feb. 25-26. You may copy the banner and post it in your blog on the dates mentioned. If you have your own posters, please use them too.
Captions and entire posts are welcome. Let us all join hands and free our country from the grip of "EVILS" in government. The time for genuine change is NOW!
Captions and entire posts are welcome. Let us all join hands and free our country from the grip of "EVILS" in government. The time for genuine change is NOW!
Pass It to the Front
I was tagged byRusin Roundup.
Here are the rules:
* First copy and paste it.
* Do not remove any content.
* Just add One word related to your blogs.
* If you don't like the concept Pls! say no?
* Our main goal is we are going to circulate our number of friends.
* The more people join the "pass it to the front" the more links we generate.
* Lastly write only one word "short" for your blogs...
* Keep it simple and short, I know some of you have more than one blogs.
* The color is only black, gray, or white plssss avoid using any color okies.
Let me show you:
1.-Filipina, 2.-Darling allen, 3.-Abroad, 4.-Halfway, 5.-life, 6.-culture, 7.-interracial, 8.-pinaystories , 9.-pinaysinglelooking, 10.-health, 11.-Miscellaneous, 12. Coaster,13. Roundup 14. Reviews 15.-wife 16.
I'm going to pass it on to my new friends in the blogging world the 4 seasons of my life, simple life, simply me, mari, and mamabliss' treasured moments.
Monday, February 25, 2008
More on the EDSA Anniversary
In the spirit of genuine People Power I am one with the Nation in protest against the current administration.
Ngayon ang simula ng dalawang araw na blogswarm para sa pagpapababa sa Pang(g)ulong Arroyo. Saktong sakto sa anibersaryong ipinagdiriwang natin ngayon. Tara na mga kapwa cyber-aktibista! Saan mang lupalop ng mundo ka naroroon, makilahok na sa…
Electronic
Data
Swarm
Against Arroyo
wave 1.0
Let’s Expand the Democratic Space through cyber-Activism. Sama-sama nating ISIGAW / I-POST / IE-MAIL:
TAMA NA, SOBRA NA, KILOS NA!
GMA, ALIS(IN) NA!
Remembering EDSA 1
In celebration of the first People Power Revolution, I am appealing to Gloria Arroyo, her family, her cabinet, the Senate and Congress, all the mayors and their respective councils, and the barangay captains to please remember the spirit that made that historic event happen. Stop all your evil doings. Stop abusing the power which your constituents gave you to enrich yourselves. Matakot kayo sa Diyos! There is always a payback time. What is painful is that more often than not, God hits you where it hurts the most. Most of the time, it is your children or grandchildren who will pay the dues you owe to society. If you love your family, do not make them pay for all your evil works. Gloria, your children are hopeless. So God will not punish you through them. But your small grandchildren are very small. Do you want them to pay for the evil you, your husband and your children have done? Maawa ka sa kanila. Believe me, God will find retribution for all your sins and they will probably be the ones who will be hit the most. If you are planning to tape another "I am sorry" act, please don't. Gastado na yan! Admit your mistakes and like Erap, do your time. Make your co-thieves do the same. Congressmen, stop your boot-licking. Tapos na ang panahon ni Gloria. Gusto na namin siyang patayin! Baka sa sobrang gigil ng tao, bumuo na kami ng liquidation squad na susugpo sa mga tiwaling opisyales ng pamahalaan. Di na lang NPA at MILF ang magiging problema niyo! May vigilante squad pa na pagod na sa mga magnanakaw na kagaya niyo! Baka imbes na non-violent reform ang itawag namin, a call to civil revolt na. Kayo rin! Huwag niyong hintaying mapuno ang salop. Nakakapagod na kayo at ang inyong kawalanghiyaan. Even peaace-loving people like me are enraged. Matakot kayo sa mga taong tahimik. Matinik sila kung magalit. At di ako nag-iisa. Marami na kami. At patuloy na dumadami hangga't patuloy kayo sa inyong kawalanghiyaan. Sa aking mga kapwa Pilipino, na alam kong gising na gising na, iparinig niyo ang inyong hinaing. Organize yourself into groups and fight corruption. This is the only way for the Philippines to reach the greatness it so deserves. We deserve good governance because we are a basically good people. Do not allow yourselves to be pulled down by these evil men in government. We deserve the best because we are one of the best. Like Ninoy said, "The Filipino is worth dying for." Do not let his death come to naught because those who came after him are the devil's "pakawala." Unite! Be heard!
Sunday, February 24, 2008
Gtky Tag
I’ve been tagged by melai for this meme.
Here are the rules:
Copy this entire list of questions and change all the answers so that they apply to you. Then tag and pass it along to other blogging friends. Let’s see how well we can get to know one another!
1. What is your occupation?
-entrepreneur
2. What color are your socks right now?
-Sorry, no socks. Humidity in the Philippines does not make it comfortable for us to wear socks.
3. What are you listening to right now?
- I don't like listening to music when writing.
4. What was the last thing that you ate?
- Nilaga. (If you're not Filipino, you won't know what this is, he he he. It's a clear soup with beef, cabbage, bananas, potatoes, and corn. Goes well with steamed rice.)
5. Can you drive a stick shift?
- I don't drive.
6. If you were a crayon, what color would you be?
- Blue. It's calming.
7. Last person you spoke to on the phone?
-My daughter's godmother who is also a very close friend.
8. Do you like the person who sent this to you?
- I have never met her in person but from what I've read of her daily articles in her numerous blogs, she could just turn out to be one of my most admired people on this planet. I get the impression that she is gifted with absolute courage, admirable humility, and kindness that makes for a great human being and a most treasured friend.
9. Favorite drink?
- Pepsi max. (It used to be coke but these days, it just doesn't taste right anymore.)
10. What is your favorite sport to watch?
- Ice skating. (Is that a sport? It's the only one I can bear watching. I am not into sports at all.)
11. Have you ever dyed your hair?
- Oh yes! I had white hair even at the tender age of 10. Now I need to have it dyed unless I want to look 60 even if I am not quite that age yet.
12. Dog named
-Olive, our family's beloved little shih tzu.
13. Favorite food?
- Any kind of pasta. I must have been Italian in my former life.
14. Last movie you watched?
- I Am Legend. My husband's choice really. I watch whatever the family wants to see.
15. Favorite Day of the year?
- Christmas. That's the Sagittarian in me, I suppose-refusing to grow up.
16. What do you do to vent anger?
-I write. It helps me to put my emotions into perspective. Then I find that there's really nothing to be all that upset about.
17. What was your favorite toy as a child?
- My talking doll. I called her Maribel.
18. What is your favorite, fall or spring?
- Where I am, we only have two seasons, the wet and the dry season. The wet season means rain which I hate. So I guess it's the dry season for me which is summer.
19. Hugs or kisses?
- Hugs, most definitely. It gives me a feeling of warmth and tender care.
20. What kind of pie?
- Apple. Love the play of apple flavor with the hint of cinnamon.
21. Do you want your friends to email you back?
-Oh yes. I love getting e-mail from friends. All the more so now that I have joined the blogging community.
22. Who is most likely to respond?
- Most everyone responds. Family, specially.
23. Who is least likely to respond?
- My kids. We see each other day in and day out so whatever they need to say, they just tell me personally.
24. Living arrangements?
- I live with my parents, my maternal aunt and uncle, my three children, my youngest brother, the maids and the driver. Oh, and of course, our dog and our almost a hundred finches.
25. When was the last time you cried?
-Since Jun Lozada appeared at the Senate, almost daily. It's a mixture of sorrow for the wretched state of the Philippine government, and extreme anger at the evil enveloping Philippine society. Whenever I watch the news these days, I cry.
26. What is on the floor of your closet?
- My bags and my jewelry case.
27. Who is the friend you have had the longest that you are sending this to?
- Amel and Max. They are the first bloggers to visit my site (along with fellow-Filipina Sasha and Melai, who sent me this tag). That was just over a month ago - imagine that!
28. The friend you have known the shortest amount of time that you are sending this to?
-Lyn. She intrigues me.
29. Favorite smell?
- I'm not into perfumes. I love the smell of the sea though.
30. What inspires you?
- Generosity, selflessness. This day and age, it's rare.
31. What are you afraid of?
- Nothing. My faith has erased all my fears. Whatever comes my way, I know with God's help, I will prevail.
32. Plain, cheese or spicy hamburgers?
-Cheeseburgers, definitely.
33. Favorite car?
- I don't care one way or the other. I am not into cars.
34. Favorite cat breed?
- I am a bird lover. I don't think cats are good for my aviary.
35. Number of keys on your key ring?
- One. The spare key of my van. In case my driver locks his key inside it.
36. How many years at your current job?
- I run my own business. I put it up in 1993. So that's about 15 years, right?
37. Favorite day of the week?
- Saturday. That's family day. That's when my brother and fellow blogger and sis-in-law Liza and their kids (dog in tow, too) come over.
38. How many provinces have you lived in?
- One. I lived in my husband's province for six years.
39. How many countries have you been to?
- 2. I haven't travelled all that much. No time and no money to do it.
I am passing this tag to joy, amel, sheng.lyn,and max. Perhaps among all my new blogger -friends, they are the ones I am most curious about.
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Random Thoughts on Greed
They say money is the root of all evil. But I have to disagree. If you think about it, there is nothing wrong with having it or wanting to have it. Perhaps it would be more correct to say that the pursuit of money at all cost is the root of all evil. Its pursuit is motivated by greed. Greed is the antithesis of sharing. Sharing is the essence of love. Therefore, money is not the root of all evil, it is greed.
Why am I writing about greed? It is, after all, a negative subject. I guess it is brought about by the continuing saga of the anomalous national broadband deal that has rocked the foundations of the present Philippine presidency. I am appalled by the magnitude of greed our politicians seem to be entrenched in. And to think we are the only predominantly Christian nation in Asia.
The whistle-blower and reluctant hero Jun Lozada says his friend and former boss Rodolfo Neri called Madame President evil. I myself refer to her as the devil in Malacañang. Perhaps some would say I am being too harsh on her. But I beg to disagree. As President, she should be the model of all that is good and pure and true. And yet she has shown us that she lies, she cheats, and now, she steals, too. By all accounts, Neri is correct. She is indeed evil.
Why is there so much greed in the world today? Why is there so much evil? How can we combat this? I fear for my children. Now, more than ever, I am determined to instill in them the morals and the values that will make them better human beings. Man by nature is not greedy. Everyone is basically good. Why then do we have people like Gloria and the rest of her kind? Perhaps it is because their parents failed to instill in them the proper values that make us different from animals. This is actually an anguished call to all parents out there! Please, teach your children well. Arm them with the values they need so that in their adulthood they do not turn into the monsters we see around us now. Teach them to love, to share, to be considerate, to be respectful, to be selfless, to be useful to society. More importantly, teach them to choose what is right all the time. If all parents in the world determine to do this, then there is hope for mankind.
Why am I writing about greed? It is, after all, a negative subject. I guess it is brought about by the continuing saga of the anomalous national broadband deal that has rocked the foundations of the present Philippine presidency. I am appalled by the magnitude of greed our politicians seem to be entrenched in. And to think we are the only predominantly Christian nation in Asia.
The whistle-blower and reluctant hero Jun Lozada says his friend and former boss Rodolfo Neri called Madame President evil. I myself refer to her as the devil in Malacañang. Perhaps some would say I am being too harsh on her. But I beg to disagree. As President, she should be the model of all that is good and pure and true. And yet she has shown us that she lies, she cheats, and now, she steals, too. By all accounts, Neri is correct. She is indeed evil.
Why is there so much greed in the world today? Why is there so much evil? How can we combat this? I fear for my children. Now, more than ever, I am determined to instill in them the morals and the values that will make them better human beings. Man by nature is not greedy. Everyone is basically good. Why then do we have people like Gloria and the rest of her kind? Perhaps it is because their parents failed to instill in them the proper values that make us different from animals. This is actually an anguished call to all parents out there! Please, teach your children well. Arm them with the values they need so that in their adulthood they do not turn into the monsters we see around us now. Teach them to love, to share, to be considerate, to be respectful, to be selfless, to be useful to society. More importantly, teach them to choose what is right all the time. If all parents in the world determine to do this, then there is hope for mankind.
Sunday, February 17, 2008
My Take on Jun Lozada's Expose on the ZTE Scandal
Since Mr. Jun Lozada came out with his expose on the NBN-ZTE broadband deal, I have been trying to stop myself from making a comment about it on my blog. Because really, it concerns only the Philippines. And not all bloggers are Filipinos. Somehow, I felt it inappropriate a venue to air my views on corruption in the Philippine government.
Upon deeper reflection, however, I have had to change my view. After all, Filipino politicians do not have a monopoly on corruption in government. It would be naive to think that. It happens everywhere and we see news of these things happening even and perhaps, more importantly, in first world countries like the U.S.A.
A lot of Filipinos are saying that all these exposes will come to naught anyway, so why bother talking about it. Even if Arroyo steps down, whoever comes after her will do just as she and her cohorts have done, enrich themselves while in power. Corruption will remain long after the Arroyos leave Malacañang.
The truth is, I am convinced that corruption will be present whoever is in power. But that is not the point, is it? We allow these people to steal from our country when we keep quiet about it. Nothing will change if we do not do something about it. The silent majority have to be heard. We have to show our disgust. And the time is NOW!
Gloria cheated her way to the presidency. That much is clear. She continues to cheat us via her husband's and her children's money-making activities at the expense of all of us. And our response to all these wrongdoing is a shrug of our shoulders because voicing out our disgust is not going to change anything anyway!? Really now?!?! Enough! One thing is clear to me. I am as much to blame for the rape of the Philippine economy by my choice not to say anything. Apathy, not Gloria, is the root of our problems. Change is in our hands, not the government's. We can make it happen if we determine to make it happen. Mr. Lozada placed the ball in our hands. What happens next is our choice.
Upon deeper reflection, however, I have had to change my view. After all, Filipino politicians do not have a monopoly on corruption in government. It would be naive to think that. It happens everywhere and we see news of these things happening even and perhaps, more importantly, in first world countries like the U.S.A.
A lot of Filipinos are saying that all these exposes will come to naught anyway, so why bother talking about it. Even if Arroyo steps down, whoever comes after her will do just as she and her cohorts have done, enrich themselves while in power. Corruption will remain long after the Arroyos leave Malacañang.
The truth is, I am convinced that corruption will be present whoever is in power. But that is not the point, is it? We allow these people to steal from our country when we keep quiet about it. Nothing will change if we do not do something about it. The silent majority have to be heard. We have to show our disgust. And the time is NOW!
Gloria cheated her way to the presidency. That much is clear. She continues to cheat us via her husband's and her children's money-making activities at the expense of all of us. And our response to all these wrongdoing is a shrug of our shoulders because voicing out our disgust is not going to change anything anyway!? Really now?!?! Enough! One thing is clear to me. I am as much to blame for the rape of the Philippine economy by my choice not to say anything. Apathy, not Gloria, is the root of our problems. Change is in our hands, not the government's. We can make it happen if we determine to make it happen. Mr. Lozada placed the ball in our hands. What happens next is our choice.
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Valentine's Day Greetings
To all my new-found friends in the blogging world and to all bloggers out there, HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!! Spread the LOVE not only today but everyday.
May this angel baby bring you and your loved ones all the LOVE you need the whole year through.
May this angel baby bring you and your loved ones all the LOVE you need the whole year through.
Wednesday, February 13, 2008
This linky love tag came from Lizza.
Limadang.com
RamblingMoo.com
blogginginmypyjamas
StylewithPassion
Chinneeq
Dora-zooropazoo
Babyshern
HiPnCooLMoMMa
Rachel’s Soulful Thoughts
When Silence Speaks
Dancing in Midlife Tune
Underneath it AllMy Charmed Life
Blueberry Cheesecake
Underneath it All
I am Dzoi
Alpha’s Blog
Liza “My so called life”
Online Ramblings
TeacherJulie.com
Mommy's Little Corner
WifespeakHave just done so many tags today. I don't think want to tag anyone in particular. Just feel free to grab this one.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Feeling Low? Remember This . . . . . .
I have to excuse myself to all the non-Christian bloggers out there. This post might not sit well with you and your beliefs so please skip this one.
I'm Catholic so prayer is part of my daily habits. My favorite prayer is the Serenity Prayer. It goes like this: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference." In the most trying times, this prayer helps to keep me sane.
Very recently, a dear friend sent me an e-mail which I found very helpful when I am feeling low or feeling worthless. We all go through these moods so I would like to share this with all of you who might be going through a rough spot. Here goes . . . .
The next time you feel GOD can't use you, just remember . . . .
Noah was a drunkard.
Abraham was too old.
Isaac was a daydreamer.
Jacob was a liar.
Leah was ugly.
Joseph was abused.
Moses had a stuttering problem.
Gideon was afraid.
Samson had long hair and was a womanizer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Jeremiah and Timothy were very young.
David was an adulterer and a murderer.
Elijah was suicidal.
Isaiah preached naked.
Jonah ran from God.
Naomi was a widow.
Job went bankrupt.
John the Baptist ate bugs.
Peter denied Christ three times.
The disciples fell asleep while praying.
Martha was a worrier.
The Samaritan woman was divorced . . . more than once.
Zaccheus was very small.
Paul was too religious.
Timothy had an ulcer. . . AND Lazarus was dead!
So no excuses now. God can use you to your full potential.
Besides, you aren't the message; you are just the messenger!
God is just waiting for you to see your full potential! When you realize that, then He can finally use you for His great purpose.
I'm Catholic so prayer is part of my daily habits. My favorite prayer is the Serenity Prayer. It goes like this: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference." In the most trying times, this prayer helps to keep me sane.
Very recently, a dear friend sent me an e-mail which I found very helpful when I am feeling low or feeling worthless. We all go through these moods so I would like to share this with all of you who might be going through a rough spot. Here goes . . . .
The next time you feel GOD can't use you, just remember . . . .
Noah was a drunkard.
Abraham was too old.
Isaac was a daydreamer.
Jacob was a liar.
Leah was ugly.
Joseph was abused.
Moses had a stuttering problem.
Gideon was afraid.
Samson had long hair and was a womanizer.
Rahab was a prostitute.
Jeremiah and Timothy were very young.
David was an adulterer and a murderer.
Elijah was suicidal.
Isaiah preached naked.
Jonah ran from God.
Naomi was a widow.
Job went bankrupt.
John the Baptist ate bugs.
Peter denied Christ three times.
The disciples fell asleep while praying.
Martha was a worrier.
The Samaritan woman was divorced . . . more than once.
Zaccheus was very small.
Paul was too religious.
Timothy had an ulcer. . . AND Lazarus was dead!
So no excuses now. God can use you to your full potential.
Besides, you aren't the message; you are just the messenger!
God is just waiting for you to see your full potential! When you realize that, then He can finally use you for His great purpose.
Post a Smile
This is a really sweet tag I got from Max. It took a while for me to put it up because I didn't quite know how to do this. She very kindly taught me how but I fell ill and was out of circulation for a bit. I finally had time to search for the nicest smile I could find. I hope it brings a smile to everyone who sees it.
Cute, isn't it? It's a picture of my son way back when he was a loveable year old toddler.
I would like to tag my friends . . . My Precious . . . , CC's Lifestyle and Reviews, and Shower Your Children With Love-The Right Way.
Cute, isn't it? It's a picture of my son way back when he was a loveable year old toddler.
I would like to tag my friends . . . My Precious . . . , CC's Lifestyle and Reviews, and Shower Your Children With Love-The Right Way.
Awards From Dear Fellow-Bloggers
I got this really cute Pixie Dust Pin from A Simple Life. Thanks, sis.
I'd like to pass this on to my friends Choc Mint Girl, Manilenya, and My Life, My World.
This Hello My Friend tag I received from Rojoy's Daily Update. I'd like to pass it on to my new friends D' Cooking Mudra, Pinay's Lifestyle and Living, and Pinaymama's Diary.
The Peace Train
I chanced upon this logo on My View of It. Since peace is one of my advocacies, I thought it only appropriate to have this logo on my blog for everyone to see. If you want to hop on the peace train, please click on the link I mentioned.
Monday, February 11, 2008
Big Bang Meme Updated List
Just thought I'd post the updated list of the 'Big Bang' Meme for all my friends reference.
1-Attitude, the Ultimate Power 2-Juliana's Site 3-Rusin Roundup 4-Grow Rich Along With Me 5-Comedy Plus 6-lynda's loft 7-Amel's Realm 8-MAX 9-Speedcat Hollydale 10-Mariuca 11-Complain Complain Complain 12-Mariuca's Perfume Gallery 13-Life Is A Roller Coaster 14-Sugar Queen's Dream 15-First Time Dad 16-Life 17-My Life 18-The Painted Veil 19-My Thoughts 20-DatCurious.com 21-Little Aussie Cynic 22-A Nice Place in the Sun 23-DatMoney.com 24-The Down Side OF Up 25-Ladyjava's Lounge 26-Cat Tales 27-moms.....check nyo 28-Colorado Baby 29-It's a Woman's World 30-ENLIGHTENED BITS 31-My View of "It" 32-My Reviews and Finds Along the Way 33-Our Hep Chat 34-Rantings of a Woman 35-The Callalily Space 36-Mom Knows Everything 37-Hazel 38-Chronicles and Tales Unlimited (RED) 39-From the Mouth of Jabber Jaws 40-Sunny Side Up Foodie & Lifestyle 41-Carmel Corn 42-Daily Stock Picks 43-The Whole New World 44-Wifespeak 45-Slavery Bliss 46-Rooms of My Heart 47-Unpredictable Life 48-My Life, My World 49- At Your Service 50-All About Ebay 51-Everything Amazon 52-Turn On, Tune In, Drop Out 53-My So-Called Site 54-New Wife Blog 55-Tendre Poison 323 56-Nick's Bytes 57-My Scratch Pad 58-Choc Mint Girl 59-Life Is Just Around the Corner... 60-Amori, poseia, art... virtuali by Hanna 61-Maryannaville 62-monaco - monaco's 63-Nyumix's Blog 64-read my mind - my keyboard monologues 65-Shower You Children With Love - The Right Way 66-Secret Agent Mama 67-Pinaymama's Diary 68-Answers to the Questions 69-Work of the Poet 70-A Total Blog 71-My life, my hope, my future 72-NORTE 73-A Window to Our World 74-Life as a Mom 75-FIELD OF DREAMS 76-lisgold 77-See Me for What You 78-Caught in The Stream 79-Pinay Mommy Online - My Home 80-foster me up 81-CRUEL VIRGIN 82-Garden of Moments in Blog 83-So Cute 84-Love Everlasting 85-WeLcOmE To My CriB 86-WELCOM TO PINAYSMILE'S JOURNEY 87-Ice's Icelog 88-Jenny's Wandering Thoughts 89-Hobbies and Such 90-Sweet Paradise 91-Mommy's Gibble Gabbles 92-Rusin Review's 93-My Small World 94-Little Peanut 95-Online Ramblings 96-My Mood My Feeling 97-BLOG it with ALLEN 98-Entertainment World 99-Let's Go Singapore 100-Firelynx 101-Catsy Carpe Diem 102-Every Beat Of My Heart 103-Always Da Fresh Princess 104-Listening.. 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Coping With Betrayal
Love hurts. Everyone who's fallen in love will tell you that. In a few days, couples all over the world will be celebrating their love for each other. Those who are in new relationships will be in that stage where romance is the prevailing mood. But those of us who have been in long term relationships will be celebrating it in a different way. And then again, those who have just been through, or are still going through a crisis in their relationship will have a much harder time celebrating it.
In my youth, I used to say that if the man in my life betrays me, I will leave-fast. Now that I'm in my forties and have been married for close to two decades, I'm no longer that sure. I have seen many marriages fall apart after a spouse strays. But I have seen more marriages go on despite the indiscretions one of them may have committed. When your husband strays, should you forgive him? If you stay, how do you cope with the betrayal? I have been asked these question so many times that I decided to write about it.
Whether one should stay in a relationship after the partner strays is entirely his/her decision. The answer depends on a lot of factors. For one thing, it really will depend on why the other strayed. Some men just lack the maturity to stay in a monogamous relationship. If that's the case, it is best to leave. Some stray because of a momentary weakness. Most of the women whom I know stayed believed their husbands were caught at a time when they were too weak to resist the temptation. And I have seen a lot of these marriages become stronger after weathering the crisis.
The first thing a woman has to determine when she finds out her man is being unfaithful to her is if her man still loves her and is determined to keep their relationship intact. Then she too has to examine herself and determine if she loves him enough to try to make things work again. You see, it takes two to make this work again. Once she knows this for sure, then she can take the steps necessary to repair their relationship.
The first thing she has to do is to ACCEPT that her man is not perfect-that he made a mistake. Also, she has to accept that she is partly to blame for what happened. They have to talk things through. And they have to do this without recriminations. They must both agree to accept their imperfections and try to work on them so that they don't commit the same mistakes again.
The second thing she has to do is to FORGIVE. This is easier said than done. To do this, her husband must be patient and he must be willing to talk to her and be sensitive to her feelings more than ever before. She has to learn to stop dwelling on the past and determine to move on and move past the pain. She has to let go of the anger and the hurt. She must purge herself of the negative emotions that ultimately comes with betrayal. All throughout this stage, her partner must be completely supportive and understanding. For some couples I know, this stage took years to accomplish because the anger and the pain takes longer to die down and mellow. But time is the great healer. And it does happen, in time.
The third step is to FORGET. This is probably even harder to do. As human beings, we have long memories and the more the memory hurts, the longer it takes for us to forget it. Then there is the perfectly natural reaction that once bitten, twice shy. We are reluctant to forget lest we get hurt again. By forgetting, I don't mean develop selective amnesia. I mean, it is necessary that the wife stop dwelling on the negative and concentrate on moving past the pain and getting on with their lives. Concentrate on getting through each day without thinking about her husband's indiscretion. In time, the memory of the incident will be but a blur in her memory. In time . . . .
The last step is to RESTORE THE TRUST. This is probably the hardest to do. But if the relationship is going to work at all, this is necessary. How can you possibly trust a person again if he has betrayed you before? Impossible? Not really. If you determine to trust your spouse again, then it will happen. It's not going to happen overnight but it will happen eventually. Of course, it will depend on how he goes about restoring that trust. The effort has to come from him and you will respond accordingly. The secret is to look for the good in your spouse; concentrate on that. Ignore the negative. By your faith, your relationship will be saved.
All these things are possible only with one thing: love. Love is not an emotion. Love is a decision. We do not fall in love. We grow in love.
In my youth, I used to say that if the man in my life betrays me, I will leave-fast. Now that I'm in my forties and have been married for close to two decades, I'm no longer that sure. I have seen many marriages fall apart after a spouse strays. But I have seen more marriages go on despite the indiscretions one of them may have committed. When your husband strays, should you forgive him? If you stay, how do you cope with the betrayal? I have been asked these question so many times that I decided to write about it.
Whether one should stay in a relationship after the partner strays is entirely his/her decision. The answer depends on a lot of factors. For one thing, it really will depend on why the other strayed. Some men just lack the maturity to stay in a monogamous relationship. If that's the case, it is best to leave. Some stray because of a momentary weakness. Most of the women whom I know stayed believed their husbands were caught at a time when they were too weak to resist the temptation. And I have seen a lot of these marriages become stronger after weathering the crisis.
The first thing a woman has to determine when she finds out her man is being unfaithful to her is if her man still loves her and is determined to keep their relationship intact. Then she too has to examine herself and determine if she loves him enough to try to make things work again. You see, it takes two to make this work again. Once she knows this for sure, then she can take the steps necessary to repair their relationship.
The first thing she has to do is to ACCEPT that her man is not perfect-that he made a mistake. Also, she has to accept that she is partly to blame for what happened. They have to talk things through. And they have to do this without recriminations. They must both agree to accept their imperfections and try to work on them so that they don't commit the same mistakes again.
The second thing she has to do is to FORGIVE. This is easier said than done. To do this, her husband must be patient and he must be willing to talk to her and be sensitive to her feelings more than ever before. She has to learn to stop dwelling on the past and determine to move on and move past the pain. She has to let go of the anger and the hurt. She must purge herself of the negative emotions that ultimately comes with betrayal. All throughout this stage, her partner must be completely supportive and understanding. For some couples I know, this stage took years to accomplish because the anger and the pain takes longer to die down and mellow. But time is the great healer. And it does happen, in time.
The third step is to FORGET. This is probably even harder to do. As human beings, we have long memories and the more the memory hurts, the longer it takes for us to forget it. Then there is the perfectly natural reaction that once bitten, twice shy. We are reluctant to forget lest we get hurt again. By forgetting, I don't mean develop selective amnesia. I mean, it is necessary that the wife stop dwelling on the negative and concentrate on moving past the pain and getting on with their lives. Concentrate on getting through each day without thinking about her husband's indiscretion. In time, the memory of the incident will be but a blur in her memory. In time . . . .
The last step is to RESTORE THE TRUST. This is probably the hardest to do. But if the relationship is going to work at all, this is necessary. How can you possibly trust a person again if he has betrayed you before? Impossible? Not really. If you determine to trust your spouse again, then it will happen. It's not going to happen overnight but it will happen eventually. Of course, it will depend on how he goes about restoring that trust. The effort has to come from him and you will respond accordingly. The secret is to look for the good in your spouse; concentrate on that. Ignore the negative. By your faith, your relationship will be saved.
All these things are possible only with one thing: love. Love is not an emotion. Love is a decision. We do not fall in love. We grow in love.
Saturday, February 9, 2008
I received this award from jk.
I'd like to pass on this award to cc's lifestyle and reviews, juliana's site, and mommy's little corner.
I'd like to pass on this award to cc's lifestyle and reviews, juliana's site, and mommy's little corner.
Tuesday, February 5, 2008
I grabbed this Choo-choo Train tag from Liza. I won't be tagging anyone but please feel free to grab this award if you're interested.
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The Chemistry of Love
It's February once again. . . love is in the air. With Valentine's Day just around the corner, it is inevitable that love will be written about and discussed everywhere where there are readers. Bloggers are not an exception. So here's a different viewpoint on love-for a change.
According to Helen Fisher, a leading expert on love, there are three stages of love. The first stage is LUST. She describes it as the initial, mostly sexual desire between two individuals which promotes mating. At this stage, the body shows an increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects, she found, rarely last more than a few weeks or months. But this is the stage of love that is prevalent among most people who are "involved" with someone.
The second stage is ATTRACTION. This is basically the romantic desire for a particular person. It develops out of lust to a commitment to a specific person. At this stage, individuals tested show that their brains consistently release a certain set of chemicals such as pheronomes, dopamine, and serotonin which have effects that are similar to amphetamines. These chemicals stimulate the brain's pleasure center and produces side-effects such as increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and an intense feeling of excitement. Research indicates that this stage generally lasts from one and one-half years to three years.
The third stage is ATTACHMENT. This stage is based on the type of bonding which promotes longer lasting relationships. It is based on commitment such as marriage and children, or on deeper friendships due to shared interests. The body, at this stage, releases higher levels of chemicals such as oxytocin and vasopressin.
The brain scans of people who are infatuated by love display a resemblance to those with mental illnesses. This is indicative, therefore, that new love is possibly more physical than emotional. Over time, this type of reaction mellows and the different areas of the brain are activated. These activities are based mainly on long-term commitments.
To those of you who have dates on Valentine's Day and are planning on taking their relationships a step further, keep this in mind. If you're in that stage where your heart races at the site of your "new love" and you can't seem to find your appetite for food or for sleep, then be aware that you are only on the second stage of love. This stage, as studies have shown, lasts all of three years. If you are looking for a life-long partner, you might want to wait until the "excitement" mellows before taking the plunge.
According to Helen Fisher, a leading expert on love, there are three stages of love. The first stage is LUST. She describes it as the initial, mostly sexual desire between two individuals which promotes mating. At this stage, the body shows an increased release of chemicals such as testosterone and estrogen. These effects, she found, rarely last more than a few weeks or months. But this is the stage of love that is prevalent among most people who are "involved" with someone.
The second stage is ATTRACTION. This is basically the romantic desire for a particular person. It develops out of lust to a commitment to a specific person. At this stage, individuals tested show that their brains consistently release a certain set of chemicals such as pheronomes, dopamine, and serotonin which have effects that are similar to amphetamines. These chemicals stimulate the brain's pleasure center and produces side-effects such as increased heart rate, loss of appetite and sleep, and an intense feeling of excitement. Research indicates that this stage generally lasts from one and one-half years to three years.
The third stage is ATTACHMENT. This stage is based on the type of bonding which promotes longer lasting relationships. It is based on commitment such as marriage and children, or on deeper friendships due to shared interests. The body, at this stage, releases higher levels of chemicals such as oxytocin and vasopressin.
The brain scans of people who are infatuated by love display a resemblance to those with mental illnesses. This is indicative, therefore, that new love is possibly more physical than emotional. Over time, this type of reaction mellows and the different areas of the brain are activated. These activities are based mainly on long-term commitments.
To those of you who have dates on Valentine's Day and are planning on taking their relationships a step further, keep this in mind. If you're in that stage where your heart races at the site of your "new love" and you can't seem to find your appetite for food or for sleep, then be aware that you are only on the second stage of love. This stage, as studies have shown, lasts all of three years. If you are looking for a life-long partner, you might want to wait until the "excitement" mellows before taking the plunge.
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